最好金龟换酒

于我而言，达到内心平静的窍门其实是一种生活态度：不仅要满足于你所拥有的东西，还要满意于那些你并不拥有的东西。从拉丁美洲人们身上，我领悟到了这点。一路上我亲眼目睹了那么多的贫穷和不公，可人们仍以最大的乐观和热情投入生活，从容地在那里尽其性命之理。很多人也常常接触外国游客，知道外面的世界有多精彩，知道对方手机的价格是自己一年的收入，可他们并不因此生出戾气，照样心平气和，照样鼓盆而歌。我觉得这并非源于“富贵于我如浮云”的冲淡胸襟，而是他们长期生活在自然中的结果。

了不起的我

拥有是人际关系中最大的幻觉，没有人能够拥有另一个人，我们只是在各自的旅程相遇，彼此同行。

梁永安：阅读、游历和爱情

女性的慕强心理更为明显，慕强心理的表现是不把自己当强者。在传统社会，女性都是被纳人男性的生活安排，没有自己独立的文化系统和价值。今天很多女性的自我价值根基、内在的自我确认还是一个大问题。女性跟男性这个群体总体而言有两种关系：一种是把自己交出去，换得保护和安全；还有一种是独立，不做交易，此时所有的人生风险由自己承担。传统社会中大多数女性是选择做交易，换取在男性呵护、保护下的安全性。一个人就像一棵树，只有自己根基坚实，才有面对风雨的能力；如果自己不是自然生长并具有饱满生命力的话，就会特别脆弱。

自深深处

You admired my work when it was finished: you enjoyed the brilliant successes of my first nights, and the brilliant banquets that followed them: you were proud, and quite naturally so, of being the intimate friend of an artist so distinguished: but you could not understand the conditions requisite for the production of artistic work. I am not speaking in phrases of rhetorical exaggeration but in terms of absolute truth to actual fact when I remind you that during the whole time we were together I never wrote one single line. Whether at Torquay, Goring, London, Florence or elsewhere, my life, as long as you were by my side, was entirely sterile and uncreative. And with but few intervals you were, I regret to say, by my side always.